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I do not get enough cuddling in my life. Currently, it's basically only metahacker. jasra and I are working on it, on our end. The fact that I will tend to forget to be cuddly with people if I've not been doing enough cuddling does not help.

One of the best things about the wedding I just attended was feeling comfortable saying to a couple of women I had just met that I would like to be cuddling them. And then, we did so. One was more comfortable with cuddling than the other, I suspect due purely to experience with it. But. Cuddles. Cuddles with no purpose beyond simple touch.

Also, fabulous dog whose purpose in life is to be cuddly (literally, that's what she's being trained for). :)

I really, really miss contexts in which the cultural norm of 'touch must be sexual or at least have a sexual overtone' has been subverted. I mean, I don't tend to be cuddly with people if I'm not attracted to them somehow or another ("attracted" as in "drawn to" or "fascinated by" or "want to know better" - no specific goal beyond that), but it feels like a world of difference between "hey, you're nifty" and "My only purpose for touching you is because I want to get into your pants at the earliest possible opportunity". The attendees at this weekend's wedding, thankfully basically free of that cultural norm. So, I actually let hugs last as long as they would naturally do so. And didn't feel uncomfortable at random back massages as part of hugs (and indeed gave such as part of hugs myself). I am not trying to suggest that there was no interest, just that it wasn't the point of the touch.

I'm also _utterly_ delighted by the fact that, unlike usual, one of the women there was first to suggest the idea of trading contact information. It can get very, very tiring to always be the one asking for more interaction with interesting women, y'know? (I'm typically not as drawn to lengthen interactions with men, and the fact that I'm acutely aware of not dating any women appears to only have increased this trend more toward finding women more interesting) I think the last woman who was first to suggest more interactions (or perhaps mutual of said) after our first interaction was jasra. (and before that was the_xtina)

I can never tell if that's because they are shy to suggest more interaction, there is not sufficiently strong mutual fascination, or what. And I often feel like I come on too strong when I find someone fascinating, which rarely helps when interacting with a woman.

Today, I overflow with love.

Means there's a goofy half smile on my face for no obvious reason, and may make co-workers nervous. But it also means that I'm in a good mood.

I approve. I do!

And for those of you who don't read metahacker (why don't you? I reference him often enough!), go read this post. Because I said so. And because it's pretty. No, really!

And, in conclusion, I shall sound an awful lot like starandrea! ♥ to you all. Lots of ♥!

(this post brought to you by anti-migraine meds taken early enough in the day, light box use, and just general happy)

And now, I go pester a co-worker a lot.

Randy Pausch: Childhood Dreams Lecture. Long. But really worth it.

"Carnegie Mellon Professor Randy Pausch, who is dying from pancreatic cancer, gave his last lecture at the university Sept. 18, 2007, before a packed McConomy Auditorium. In his moving talk, "Really Achieving Your Childhood Dreams," Pausch talked about his lessons learned and gave advice to students on how to achieve their own career and personal goals."

I have no brain for things not work-related. But! I can offer beauty and silly and such, because it's fun and good and I want to. :)

( no really, lots of links under here. No actual content )

Why does Paperbackswap.com hate me today? Damn them. I want to give away/order more books!

Birthday parties are good. Even if it was too warm for me to remain in my formal clothing, I was still wearing fun clothing. And giggling like a loon continues (as per the trend with the_xtina) to make kissing cute girls somewhat difficult. But, I now have some immunity to the anti-kissing power of giggling! (even if I did then proceed to get very punchy as the night wore on! There were no announcements of my having toes; clearly I was still reasonably functional)

Also, happy birthday ifuonlyknew today, and jasra tomorrow!

I have unfamiliar brains to poke and prod! This is a good thing. (familiar ones continue to be good things to have around to play with, mind. Hell, assuming it's not irritating me, my _own_ continues to be fun to poke at)

I think I have finally been given a reason that I cannot avoid calling myself a geek which is less vague than being interested in everything (interest in everything is too damn general to be a geek thing). My fascination with people's brains/minds/psyches would, I think, be sufficiently strong to be a geek thing. Heh. I am an insufficiently well-educated geek of the mind, but what with my next schooling goals, that will not remain true! (of course, the more I know, the more there is to know, so I will likely continue to think I'm insufficiently well-educated about my fascination)

Mew!

[typed by jasra]

Some of you have found footie pajamas via my journal. I, however, am in search of non-footie, but one piece and soft and fuzzy pajamas. Preferably a solid color. More preferably purple or blue (both jewel tones). So far, my google-fu has failed. And lo, I turn to all of you.

Footie ones are bad because my feet like to have the option of being covered or not. And now to sleep in my currently falling apart one piece non-footie pajamas! :)

Suzanne, Cos and me
Originally uploaded by jasra.

I finally remembered to link to the pictures in jasra's flickr of the Halloween party that jasra and I went to Saturday night!

It was great fun! I appear to be being way social, now that I have meds to allow me to sleep a reasonable amount. Kinda crazy, since it's _autumn_.

[edit: click to see the rest of the set!]

By ladytabitha: I agree! Also, I say 'yay!'. :)

I am also reminded of the fact that anyone who honestly thinks that the inability to articulate a point means that the point doesn't matter is _NOT_ someone I can healthily spend time around. Seriously. If something is a problem enough to speak up about it, that _SHOULD FUCKING BE ENOUGH_. Being able to explain something is good, and high on my list of things I try to do, but inability does not mean that a problem can be ignored. (I don't know people who do that anymore, fortunately. Mostly because, as I said above, they are not people I can healthily spend time around!)

( another Katrina link )

Via rmjwell, a lovely post by thoughtmaster, called Changes: Becoming a Girl