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wispfox ([personal profile] wispfox) wrote2008-01-22 11:14 am

Arisia

I can, indeed, switch my brain into a state where I can be intensely social for long periods of time. But it requires me to not need to keep track of time, makes me _very_ flighty (counteracted by being cuddled), not great at self care, and makes non-highly-social activities not things I want to be doing (so I made it to no panels at all, and played very few games). It also requires that I have people I am utterly comfortable with clinging to/cuddling with reasonably easily available. It also makes me _way_ less good at being aware that I am not seeing as much of people as I might like, if I'm seeing them at all and I _am_ getting time with comfortably cuddly people. It also means that I start getting less able to handle touch from those I'm not as comfortable with. And starts meaning my impulse control goes away (although that may have been insufficient sleep).

I have done this before (when I met [livejournal.com profile] the_xtina and [livejournal.com profile] cos, and went to the housewarming where I knew no one), but it's been a long time, and I didn't really understand then how to make it last without huge cost. Now I have more data. :)

So! Arisia mathmatics:

++Saw way more of [livejournal.com profile] metahacker and [livejournal.com profile] galaneia than expected; I suspect some combination of [livejournal.com profile] metahacker's lack of a charged cell phone meaning it would be harder to find him, them tending to be awake when I was (aka 'early'), source of much cuddly goodness, and [livejournal.com profile] metahacker being about as unable to stay in one place as I was.
- Saw less of [livejournal.com profile] australian_joe than expected, although not all that much less (I did not expect to see much of him except for our specifically scheduled evening together).
-+ Holy shit, I went to a lot of parties. Having some combination of [livejournal.com profile] metahacker, [livejournal.com profile] deyo, [livejournal.com profile] australian_joe, [livejournal.com profile] devoken, J-who-has-no-LJ, [livejournal.com profile] majes, and [livejournal.com profile] mactavish at various of them is very probably why I _stayed_ at them (and party-hopping is kinda fun). Tried briefly to go to a party with [livejournal.com profile] devoken involving crowded dancing, but loud and crowded, so I did not stay.
+ Brief [livejournal.com profile] ayalanya sightings! Sorta met [livejournal.com profile] kires a couple times.
- Saw little of [livejournal.com profile] jasra, but I completely expected this. Busy Arisia girl! I do need to get her iPod speakers back from brother-of-[livejournal.com profile] galaneia, though.
-+ [livejournal.com profile] mactavish and [livejournal.com profile] deyo were there! But I saw less of them than I might have liked. Not shocked, though. Con, and all!
-+ Did not see as much of [livejournal.com profile] intenselaura, [livejournal.com profile] devoken, and [livejournal.com profile] starandrea as I would have prefered, but I am nontheless glad they were there. And glad that [livejournal.com profile] starandrea and [livejournal.com profile] devoken managed to meet, if briefly.
++ [livejournal.com profile] starandrea is planning to keep myself, [livejournal.com profile] intenselaura, and [livejournal.com profile] devoken in her pockets so that she can pull us out for hugging later. Charmed! Also, I have a copy of her book! With additional words!
++ Women storage (aka, J-with-no-LJ, [livejournal.com profile] intenselaura, [livejournal.com profile] devoken, myself and a couple of other women in a little cubbyhole under the stairs to the third floor across from the elevator. There are pictures. :) Was very cuddly under there, if a bit warm.
++ Happier J-with-no-LJ than I've seen in nearly two years. Glad I invited her.
++ Staying (and being mostly functional) the entire con. In midwinter!
+++++++++++ having most of the people I adore in the same location and meeting each other. (wish that [livejournal.com profile] regyt, [livejournal.com profile] the_xtina (who people kept saying J-with-no-LJ looked a bit like), [livejournal.com profile] randysmith, [livejournal.com profile] psongster, and [livejournal.com profile] alecto23 had been there)
? Being sufficiently LJ-famous that the fan guest of honor wanted to meet me. The hell?
+ being sufficeintly comfortable that I was willing to take brief nap breaks by just putting my head on the table on top of my arms. Usually I feel the need to stay aware of what's going on around me if in public places, no matter how tired I am.
-+ Stayed off the computer for days. Not enough sleep, though, so less healed than I could have been.
-+ Massage! Hurt though. And I was _way_ over tired and cold and whiny. And then I noticed and laughed at mysolf a lot.
+? Met lots of people, none of whom I will recognize later, nor remember their names. As, well, per normal. Was startled to be reminded of just how many people I _do_ recognize sufficiently to feel the need to hug them when I saw them. Sheesh!

I wonder if I remembered to mention that [livejournal.com profile] rosefox is more face blind than I, and that [livejournal.com profile] starandrea is completely so, to those people I introduced them to...

Kitty _MISSED_ us. Clingy kitty.

Very tired both physically and mentally (was awake every four hours last night). Probably oversocialized, although significantly less so than I had expected (or I have just not noticed yet as I'm alone right now). Was good I had an [livejournal.com profile] australian_joe to go home with, so it wasn't _quite_ so abrupt a change from con to not-con as far as delightfully cuddly people being within reasonably easy reach, and so that my not having seen a lot of him could be counteracted with sleepy cuddling last night and this morning.

Good con. Yes.

Damn, that's a lot of tags.
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[personal profile] randysmith 2008-01-22 04:39 pm (UTC)(link)
Heee. That sounds wonderful. I would have loved to share the con with you; I'm somewhat regretting I made the decision not to get a room when you guys were reserving, but it was the right choice at the time, and there's always next year.

But it sounds like it was [livejournal.com profile] wispfox in a somewhat new mode; would have been cool to see :-}.

[identity profile] wispfox.livejournal.com 2008-01-22 07:40 pm (UTC)(link)
Yeah, I knew why you were not there. But you were still missed! :)

[identity profile] xiphias.livejournal.com 2008-01-22 04:57 pm (UTC)(link)
I believe I saw you a bit at one of the parties, but I don't know if you recognized me.

[identity profile] wispfox.livejournal.com 2008-01-22 07:44 pm (UTC)(link)
Saw you & recognized you at least once; when [livejournal.com profile] metahacker managed to intro (re-intro?) himself to you. But that was not at a party. I know that I tend to struggle to recognize you, generally.

[identity profile] xiphias.livejournal.com 2008-01-22 09:19 pm (UTC)(link)
I was the bartender at the Ziggaraut Labs party, and was wearing a labcoat.

At that party, when you were on the balcony and took off some of your clothes, when Mactavish was there, beaq was sitting on the floor and I was scritching her head.

[identity profile] wispfox.livejournal.com 2008-01-22 09:39 pm (UTC)(link)
Yep! Complete recognition failure. I thought that I knew you, sorta, but since my recognition is crap, had no context at all, and _so many more_ people recognize me than I recognize that I didn't particularly think about it.

Sorry for that!

[identity profile] metahacker.livejournal.com 2008-01-22 10:09 pm (UTC)(link)
Heck, *I* didn't see you there, and I have a lot of people-perception. There were a LOT of people at that party...Also, a lot of distractions. Mmm. Distractions.

Well, hi again anyway.

[identity profile] xiphias.livejournal.com 2008-01-22 09:31 pm (UTC)(link)
Also, I'm not surprised that you have trouble recognizing me. I have an entirely unremarkable face. That's one of the things I like about my face: for the most part, because my face is unremarkable, strangers feel more comfortable around me.

I have an entirely standard face shape, a normal-shaped, middle-sized nose, a chin which neither sticks out nor receeds, average cheekbones and jaw which give my face a symmetrical and unremarkable shape, normal-colored and shaped blue eyes. . .

I have short hair and a short beard which frame my face in an unremarkable way. And standard, normal glasses thatgo across the my eyes in a way that doesn't stand out.

I LIKE my face, because people react well to things which are familiar, and my face looks familiar to people, even if they've never met me, because it's so average. But even people who AREN'T face-blind have trouble recognizing me -- my face just doesn't have any characteristics which people can use to "index" it in their minds.

[identity profile] wispfox.livejournal.com 2008-01-22 09:41 pm (UTC)(link)
Huh. Huh. I don't think I've ever met anyone before who _appreciates_ my inability to recognize them!

*fascinated*

(also, facial hair _always_ aversely affects my ability to recognize people)

[identity profile] xiphias.livejournal.com 2008-01-22 11:33 pm (UTC)(link)
Well, I wouldn't go so far as to say that I like being unrecognizable to my friends. But it's a side-effect of a characteristic that I have that I do, in general, like. Not having you recognize me? Not such a good thing in itself. But totally understandable, and a result of the kind of face I have. And I wouldn't trade the kind of face I have for a different kind of face.
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[personal profile] laurion 2008-01-23 01:28 am (UTC)(link)
Really? I've always found your face distinctive, and instantly recognizable. Now that I think about it though, maybe it's the smile that's so recognizable.

[identity profile] xiphias.livejournal.com 2008-01-23 01:31 am (UTC)(link)
Yup. I DO things to make me look distinctive. I walk in a distinctive way, and practice distinctive facial expressions. I sometimes spend a few minutes in the morning staring into the bathroom mirror practicing different ways of smiling to check them for effect.

[identity profile] gentlescholar.livejournal.com 2008-01-22 04:57 pm (UTC)(link)
I saw you and waved a few times; we met at thanksgiving and watched The Black Cauldron, to give a point of reference. Glad you had fun. I was sick the whole time and so not very extraverted this con.

Yeah, Arisia is home. I just live in this other place the rest of the year.

[identity profile] wispfox.livejournal.com 2008-01-22 07:45 pm (UTC)(link)
I rarely recognize people that I've met once, so I have no idea if I waved back (I'm also _really_ bad at recognizing people in crowds).

Sad that you were sick!

[identity profile] hakamadare.livejournal.com 2008-01-22 09:15 pm (UTC)(link)

huh! given this context, i'm particularly gratified that nigh-on every time i met you, you gave me a hug :)

i'm glad you had a good con.

-steve

[identity profile] wispfox.livejournal.com 2008-01-22 09:36 pm (UTC)(link)
I didn't realize that you did not know it! :)
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[personal profile] laurion 2008-01-23 01:26 am (UTC)(link)
Ok, further proof that everyone in the greater metro area knows cos personally, and that the entire world is no more than 3 degrees of separation from him.

BTW, The Women's Storage Cubby was intensely cute. I vote next year we get more of you and upgrade to a hotel room closet. I'll bet we could get eight into a closet, easy.

[identity profile] xiphias.livejournal.com 2008-01-23 01:31 am (UTC)(link)
Um. Are you sure they're in the closet?
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[personal profile] laurion 2008-01-23 01:58 am (UTC)(link)
Not yet they aren't!

Although, yes, perhaps to avoid confusion we should stick them all in a hot tub. Me too, as there should be a referee.

[identity profile] wispfox.livejournal.com 2008-01-23 02:56 pm (UTC)(link)
Yes, everyone knows [livejournal.com profile] cos. And [livejournal.com profile] sunspiral.

But a room closet is less cozy! And we can't spy on people coming up the escalators!
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[personal profile] jasra 2008-01-23 02:58 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm glad that you had a good con. It's odd, but I missed seeing a lot of people even though I wasn't at Reg all the time. I'm not sure where I was/what I was doing. :p But I was busy, that much is true.

Yay that it's now time to wind down from the con and let life resume a more normal pace.